I called to break up with him and he would not let me. He couldn’t understand why on earth a surgery would deter him from dating me. I thought he was an alien … I couldn’t understand why he would want to hang around with someone in my situation. He told me he wanted to get to know me the old-fashioned way by talking. I literally could not believe my ears … Did they even make men like that anymore? Was he from another planet? Maybe he was on drugs? I simply couldn’t figure it out. I had always been with the wrong kind of guy my entire life, so clearly I was not accustomed to a gentleman.
Now in my mid-thirties, I realize that I had it wrong all along. I finally stopped searching for “the one who would accept me physically. I now see that the only way to find true happiness is for me to look past my own imperfections. Once I was able to do that, I could focus on the things that I love to do,”
What makes me “amazing” and so different from other women is precisely because of my disability and life experiences surrounding it. It’s made me compassionate and empathetic, strong and self-confident, determined and passionate, straight-forward and level-headed. It’s what made me impervious to the intensity of our relationship and subsequent break-up.
It started with one woman with a Spinal Cord Injury (SCI) sharing her online dating stories, which inspired another to try an experiment. Then a man wanted in on the action. Together three lives intersected in a circle of friendship and support.
Three weeks ago, I was in a deep depression. I had transitioned from an independent life as a practicing attorney living all over the world to becoming chronically ill and forced to return to North Carolina in a suburb, where I quickly became isolated.
Many of you have read my dating profile from my first column, and to my pleasant surprise, I received quite a lot of responses. I then started panicking because I realized I would actually have to meet these guys and probably get naked with them eventually.This leads me to how I gained my sexuality back … The Answer?
Profile #5 Online Dating: Woman with Disabilities Share Their Road Back to Love, Lust and Empowerment
The “Quirky Quad” shares her Online Dating Profile in the hope that it will inspire, make you laugh and gain insight into how one can be open and honest about their disability and capabilities in writing a “About Me” section.
“We know it is just a video and just random people on the street, but if this small video makes you or anybody else who feels uncomfortable entering the dating scene, more confident it was worth doing it. You are beautiful. Never let your disability overshadow your smile. “
Through my experience as an able body woman and now living with a disability, I realized sexiness is losing your wishbone, finding your backbone and going for what you want out life and your relationships. I understand that putting yourself out there be a little scary and takes a little courage.
If you’re single this year, don’t fret. Keep reminding yourself he or she is out there, and until you cross paths with them, you can remember, you have always been enough, and don’t listen to anyone who ever says anything otherwise. It’s only a matter of time until cupids arrow finally has the right aim and you’ll have the relationship you’ve been dreaming of all along.