Mathew Tilford wants to respectfully provide his perspective in response to this author’s well-intentioned article on her experience with her disabled boyfriend:
“I went off and managed to fall in love with a man who happens to be paralyzed. Yup, he was in a wheelchair.” ” As seen in Elephant Journal’s My Response to 15 Things you need to know about people in a Wheelchair.”
We hope this helps to create a dialogue that enlightens and shares differing viewpoints without hostility and judgment. We are all living through our own experiences and can continually learn and grow from each other with open hearts and minds. Editor
“These articles kinda bug me. I’d like to change the title to “15 things we all must know about my husband” because she’s talking about her experiences with her husband.
I get that she’s creating awareness for people like me, but not all people who use wheelchairs are the same.
Diversity exists. As humans, we have different thought processes, different interests, different emotions and different daily struggles. Are you the same as your neighbors?
My point is, there isn’t a guide to treat people who use wheelchairs. Just be yourself. Use common sense, and you should be good.
To my wheelchair friends, it's okay to be yourself. I'm pretty sure we all agree with 1,3,4,8 and 14. Let me tell you my thoughts on the rest.