This story is probably one of my most trying and heartfelt victories I have achieved so far in my Spinal Cord Injury career with respect to insurance successes.
My struggle has been getting the word out and not having more clothing options. I think the market is there it’s just getting people to try something they aren’t used to. With being a small business I don’t order 100,000 pairs of jeans at a time so they are more expensive but getting people to see the necessity and quality of them.
Life does not stop, nor does it get less interesting the day you no longer use your legs. For me, it allowed me to up my game. Show not only others but most importantly myself, just how strong I was.
There have been times where we are watching a movie or tv show, and he’ll mention how he finds an actress attractive. To be fair, we discuss our celebrity crushes often so it’s not an odd occurrence. However, sometimes I get really down on myself about it. Not because I feel like he loves me any less, but because I feel inadequate when I compare myself to other women. My body isn’t what society would call “beautiful”.
My husband does a wonderful job of making ME feel beautiful, though. He tells me outfits that look good on me, he says I don’t need makeup to look beautiful, and has never once been ashamed of me or embarrassed to show a little PDA. His efforts help me feel less insecure.
Then one day I was in the cafetorium (a cafeteria that turns into an auditorium during school assemblies) when I realized I had nowhere to sit at lunch. Instead of reacting, I placed my food tray on my lap and began eating. Before I knew it, one of the girls who had spread the rumor stood up and bumped into my tray, spilling chocolate milk all over my new outfit. I cried hysterically, not knowing what to do next.
We want to spend our lives together and he has been so gentle in pushing me forward to help me understand that he loves me, all of me, and all that that entails. He has shown me such kindness and love, which I did not think existed.
I am a disabled person, not a person with a disability because if I have to explicitly tell someone that I am a person, I have further dehumanized myself.
Patience; Have you left part of yourself behind you?
I was raised with a great philosophy from my dad where he said “Trust, but verify.” This pretty much holds true with everything in my life today. Sadly, there are so many caregivers out there who are just doing this for a job and don’t have that kind heart to help you live a happy life.
Bridget Lally is a singer with a spinal cord injury who is sharing her song and her spirit with PUSHLiving.com in our Artist Series