Part 4: Woman with Disabilities: How Accessible is the Road to Motherhood?

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Katie Asks the Public to Help Her Find a Surrogate

Many recall the first part of our series featuring the adorable Katie, a paraplegic due to a spinal syrinx ( a fluid-filled cavity in her spine), and her longtime boyfriend Jason, who were seeking all options to adopt a child of their own. She described her journey as “One No after Another.”

Then after much time has passed and even more devastating disappointments, she now is pleading with the public to help her find a way to the baby she cannot have on her own.

Katie in a white strapless dress at a formal dinner with Jason

Katie and Jason are seeking help to have a baby of their own.

Friends (and friends of friends), I’m reaching out to you in the hope that you can help us achieve our dream of becoming parents. Unfortunately, as a paraplegic from the waist down (resulting from a fluid pocket in my spinal cord), carrying a child myself could endanger my own health as well as that of the fetus due to the medications I have to take.

Jason and I have been wanting a family ever since we met, nearly 5 years ago. We have tried every option possible, including adoption, only to have doors shut each time. We’ve recently had two different surrogates lined up and even went all the way with one which didn’t work out only 4 days before the procedure. Completely devastating.
Those of you who know me have seen that I have never let being in a chair stop me from pursuing my dreams. I don’t intend to let all of this deter me either. Since paralysis, I found the love of my life on eHarmony, have traveled all over the world, earned an MBA from Thunderbird School of Global Management, and have started working again part-time.

We’re hoping there is someone out there who will help make our biggest dream a reality. We already have chosen a reputable doctor in Los Angeles who was referred by really good friends and a donated embryo selected.

Ideally the woman would be under 40, or early 40’s, and must have previously carried at least one child to term. Their location is not important, although women in the U.S. or Canada is logistically easier. Details can be discussed one on one if anyone is interested or knows of someone who might be.

If you can’t help, I only ask you to post this on your Facebook page, as you never know who might be out there wanting to help.

On a more personal note, I want to explain why we want to be parents so much and our willingness to make sacrifices to make this happen. First of all, we both love our jobs, our time with friends and family and have many “nieces” and “nephews” thanks to our friends. However, we strongly believe that the most important job in the world is to be a good parent, helping guide a child to grow into a responsible and caring adult who we want to encourage to achieve in life whatever makes them happy. We love children and feel we would be great parents, although we realize that this comes with many unknown challenges that we can’t fully understand until we have our own. We have so much love and joy to share with a child of our own and hope we get that opportunity to experience parenthood.

If you are interested, know of anyone that might be or if you have any questions, please email me at ktonwheels@hotmail.com or call me at (312) 342-3274.


We hope that you will support Katie, however you know how or are willing, be it in prayer, positive thoughts or by sharing and potentially connecting her to the right person who would be in a position to help.

We all have our struggles with this life on wheels, and having a child does not have to be one of them.

To share your story of your road to motherhood, contactus@pushliving.com

 

Deborah Davis

Deborah is a Speaker, Disability Inclusion Consultant, Entrepreneur, Writer and Business Owner of Wheelchair Lifestyle Enterprise Push Living Inc.

She was a Former Dancer, Accident Survivor (C 6-7 Spinal Cord Injury resulting in incomplete Quadriplegia 1985), College grad (BBA Finance 1991 U of Miami), with a background in Sales and Marketing and Non Profit Development and Management.

She is now embarked on new path creating a market for Disability Inclusive Stock Images with the creation of PUSHlivingPhotos.com and publishing an online enterprise: PushLiving.com. The mission is to create Inclusion for people with disabilities through stock images for advertising, marketing and editorial uses, providing accessible properties for travel, swap or purchase, publishing an online magazine for improved health and well-being, providing information and opportunities for Accessible Travel, and operating an online store with products that improve lives.

She is most passionate about building a network of people with disabilities who are empowering, supporting and creating a more inclusive world. Personally, she is a mother of two beautiful, wise and exceptionally bright young women, and residing in South Florida.

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